Tuesday, December 2, 2014

Dear high school you were so 2007

We are having to down size again. We will be living in a 2 bedroom apartment with 2 kids for 2 years. Which isn't too crazy and we certainly aren't the only people doing this. But somehow it's surprisingly difficult to get rid of things in order to make it possible to fit into a two bedroom. I've started to go through sentimental things and create some very small boundaries there. 

One big thing I got rid of was my year books... I was in one picture in 2 years in a row. And then my senior picture didn't turn out in my last year book and check out this picture...

I'm in the middle crease. I'm not even by anyone I know. I went through my year book with feelings that I never wanted to feel again. Hurt, uncertainty, and feelings of low self-esteem among some of them. Sure high school happened and it wasn't my favorite. But I can save the pieces I do like and teach that to my kids. I saved two pages that I wanted out of my whole year books. I don't feel any remorse letting them go. However I do have personal pictures that I took of my favorite times. They take up way less space and bring back happy memories. 

My husband on the other hand was very involved in his school and had a great experience. I will keep his year books probably forever. And I actually want to attend his 10 year reunion. Mine is still up in the air. 

Have you kept your year books? Do people even buy them anymore?

Monday, November 10, 2014

Happiness is everywhere

I opened up my cash envelope at the register. I counted the dollars and gave the money to the cashier. I looked back into my envelope. All that was left was a dollar. I smiled and grabbed my groceries. I didn't want to start crying as that was the last dollar I had and there was still awhile to pay day. 

That's a normal scene for us. Probably normal for a lot of people right now. Adam and I got back into credit card debt. Not because we were buying fancy things but because it's all we could do to pay for the things we needed. 

I read a study that people like to appear wealthy to others. And that is especially true on facebook. Most people who meet us are surprised to find out we don't have much. So I'm here to clarify how life is. 

We had both cards almost maxed out. I had been praying for a solution and it came. I was able to start a cleaning business and that has almost gotten one card paid off and made it so we haven't had to go deeper into debt. Adam got accepted to school and is now seeking employment in Arizona. 

We are selling everything we can to earn money to move and to continue to get out of debt. But we aren't sad about it. 

I think that's the part that confuses most people. We are poor and happy. I've learned so many things I never would have learned had we bought a house back in 2011. I've learned to give because we always find people here who have way less than us. I've learned to let "things" go. The most important things in life are people. 

I also know that God has helped me. I couldn't be happy without Him. Every time I think we won't make it financially, the spirit will prompt me to sell something. Or donate something. And somehow we haven't missed one bill. I have gotten so much strength from this trying time. I wouldn't trade it for anything. 

Monday, October 6, 2014

How to NOT get your deposit back

I've grown up hearing about rentals. I've cleaned rentals, I've lived in rentals. I currently clean rentals and live in a rental. 

I think I know a thing or two about getting your deposit back. But as I tried to write a list of ways to get your deposit back they just seemed so obvious "Clean it!" Kept coming up. So instead of writing a how to I'm going to write a how not to. 

Ways not to get your deposit back:

1.Don't clean
-not a thing. This is the sure way to not get your deposit back

2. Put holes in the walls 
-the bigger the better. 

3. Make sure every light bulb is out
-nothing makes a land lord happier than all the lights out

4. Rub food all over the cabinets
-better yet leave some food in the fridge 

5. Try to fix things yourself 
-the more duct tape the better your chances

6.Don't pay rent for the month

7.Whatever you do, don't report the plumbing leak
-landlords love surprises like that

8. Avoid communication
-communicating problems could get your  deposit back so be sure to NOT talk to maintaince or manager or anyone 

9. Leave "treasures" for future renters 
- taking that couch to the Di when someone could get it for free??! 

10. Do all the above things and then demand your deposit back 

Ok but seriously. If you really want to get your deposit back. 

1.Ask your manager if there is a checklist for things they expect done before you move out. Solves a lot of problems then you both are on the same page. Be there for the walk through if at all possible. I ALWAYS get my deposit back that way we can talk about things ... "Oh I didn't know I needed to buy new drip pans..." Problem adverted. 

2. Talk about damages to apartment as they come along. 
Things go a lot smoother when problems aren't piled up. People are much happier to fix things when you are paying rent. 

3. Ummm pay rent 
Seriously someone asked me if they cleaned the place would they get their deposit back even though they didn't pay rent. 

4. Take your crap to the landfill or the DI. No one wants to haul it off for you except for a price. 

5. Ask if there is anything you can do if there are damages. Some things they might let you fix some things they won't. TALK TO THEM!!

6. Clean as best you can. They aren't expecting perfection but trust me I can tell the difference in efforts. 

That's it! Does this sound about right? I should make a list of what to clean for an almost guaranteed way 

Wednesday, September 3, 2014

What are we up to? Let me tell ya!

Its a common enough question for this mom and I'm sure many of you. Sometimes it might even seem I'm on Facebook all day, or just hanging out. But here is what we have been up to... 

Adam- has applied to 11 PA schools he has now heard back from 3 of them :) he has an interview in Arizona next month. He also is taking an online class and working as a CNA. Everyone at the assisted living center where he works loves him. They all go on and on about Adam. Good thing they are old ladies otherwise I might be in trouble ;) 

Thayne- has started joy school and loves it. He is learning so much and still loves being outside. Hopefully we have some good winter gear for him because he is going to need it. 

(Here he is at joy school) 

Joslyn- is starting to talk (what?!??) she is my girlie girl that knows what she wants to wear (or no clothes). Actually Thayne is quite the fashionista too. 

Me- well ya know... Just hiking with Adam. Teaching joy school, being a nursery leader, vt coordinator, and... I'm starting my own business!!!! I'm going to hopefully start cleaning apartments. Which is something I've do as since I was 16. Hopefully we will make enough money to cover extra travel expenses as Adam does interview and the time off he will have to take. 

Yup that's our lives right now. I have so much to blog about but for now this is a great update. 
Me in 2007 on Timpagonous, 2014 Adam in the same spot. This was an important picture because my cousin said I couldn't date a guy until he took a picture in that spot... Well obviously 5 years of marriage later we got around to it! 

Saturday, July 26, 2014

Adams eventful birthday

I wanted to make Adams 27th birthday really special. Because he thought it was just another birthday. I'm grateful everyday that he was born so I could be with him. I know I'm selfish. I wanted to make sure this was a birthday he wouldn't forget maybe it will be maybe it won't but I don't think I'm what made it unforgettable...

So first off we ran a 1/2 marathon for his birthday.  Adam got 1st in his age group. Got a personal record and won a belt buckle. 2 goals he set to do. 
Garett won the whole darn race!!! And didn't even train all summer. 

Then he wanted a nice cream cake... Bam! Didn't even have to make it. This is a face he has made ever since he was little. It cracks me up. Thayne makes the same face. 
Then I had a gift surprise for him to try to help him get excited about his birthday all day. I set up 7 gifts (I didn't want to do 27) that he would start opening and 11:07 and open one up every hour on the 7th minute until all the gifts were open. I didn't get a picture of it though. Look it up on Pinterest you'll find it... Here is the reason I didn't get as many pictures as I wanted, exhibit a: boating. 

This isn't our first time boating and surely not our last but Adam does have a bad shoulder and although this picture is sweet he knew he shouldn't have done that last jump... But he did and ended up, 
In the ER with a dislocated shoulder. Not the first time dislocating it but first time it took two doctors to put it back in. He sent me this selfie by the way. The babies fell asleep on our way to the emergency room. So I sat in the car with them while I trusted my handsome man to the hospital staff in Ogden. Once the kids woke up we went in and took Adam one of his gifts. We tried to stick to the hour thing. You can imagine why I didn't get pictures. It was hectic! Oh and this crazy guy didn't want to be stuck at the hospital all day so all he had was Advil. He never sends me selfies so I thought for sure he was drugged up. Nope. He just manages pain like a champ. The last gift I gave him was this...
A giant picture of our family done for $30.00 I looked up on Pinterest about Engineering prints and had one printed out and then took it to hobby lobby and had them put a foam backing. It looks amazing. And for that price you can't beat it! I can't stop staring at it. Adam couldn't wait to get it up on the wall. 

Being married to Adam is the best thing I've ever done in my life. This man of mine is incredible. He works so hard in fact he went to work the next day of his birthday. He does everything without complaint. Even when I ask him to hand me something and I'm closer to it. He makes life so fun and enjoyable. He is close to God. He is an amazing father and husband. I don't know how I got so lucky to have him but I'm grateful to be the one he choose to spend his eternity with. I love you babe!! 

Oh and big PA school news, Adam finished his application we should start hearing about interview this fall :) 

Thursday, July 10, 2014

Because I run like a girl

Lately I've been thinking about where I stand on things. Like everything. There is so much to be opinionated about these days. And I hate talking politics because really only two parties? I'll leave those posts to bloggers who love to argue. Luckily there is more than politics to be  opinionated about. I recently saw a video called #likeagirl. I had to watch it to see what it was all about. I was impressed.
You have to watch it too otherwise you will have no idea what I am talking about...

My mother and father raised me to believe I could do anything I wanted. In fact I spent many childhood days dreaming of being a pro soccer player. Although soccer nor volleyball happened in high school like I had thought I found out that runners were athletes too. I had unfortunate event happen to my body in high school that effected my speed and it did not increase my senior year. Even though my medley relay team broke our school record I still wasn't fast enough. I didn't tell anyone but I did want to run in college on a team. The amazing thing about running is that you don't need a team. I can always run. So what does that have to do with the video? I want my children to know what it means to me to do things "like a girl". To me running like a girl means pushing physical limits. Attempting to brush aside the want of chocolate... And then giving in and having to run with a belly full of chocolate. Running like a girl means no excuses. I have my babies and I run with them. Running like a girl also means being a proud winner but also a good loser. Adam can out run me any day. It's a fact. But that doesn't stop me from trying to keep up with him. In fact to take this picture he had to slow down and push the stroller...

Exercise is important to me. That's why I studied it in college. I love learning how my body works and how to make it stronger. I saw a quote on Pinterest that said "I don't want to be someone else I want to be me but healthier and stronger". That rings true for me as well. I'm proud to run like a girl. I'm proud to be a girl. I'm striving to have a positive outlook about my body. Sure it has flaws but it's all I got so I'm going to work with it. And I'm going to keep on running no matter who is passing me. 

Monday, July 7, 2014

Why this California girl loves Utah

Yup thats right. I love Utah. 
Go ahead and judge. 
I grew up in California as a child. I thought maybe someday I would return again.
Adam and I visited and as I went back to my hometown I realized 
something was missing. 

It wasn't there at all. People thought my parents were crazy because we lived in
San Diego (actually in San Diego not on the outskirts) 
some people say they are from there but they aren't... 

anyway isn't that where people want to stay forever? 
Mild weather, the beach, laid back people, the beach, THE BEACH!!!
The funny thing about living in San Diego is that I got bored of the beach. 
My mom was so shocked when I was ok to move to Idaho as a sophomore in high school. 
From Idaho it was only a matter of time before I moved to Utah.

I feel like Utah gets a bad rep from a lot of people. Yes there are definitely some extreme LDS people (Mormons) out here and some judgey people (aren't there everywhere?)
But there are a lot of good people here. Even ones that aren't Mormon. 

I love the mountains, 
I love the snow, 
I love that people want to help each other,
I love the summers, 
I love the springs, 
I love feeling safe, 
I love that people migrate here, 
I love that I can hike and only travel 30 minutes, 
I love my new home.

I didn't get to mention we were able to be apart of a Marshall Island wedding, right here in Utah. 
It was a wonderful experience. These Marshallize (hopefully spelled that right) people have also come to love Utah as well. I love other cultures and learning from them. 
I thought I was doing good at minimizing until I met them, but thats another story for another day.

I don't know if we will call Utah home forever. In fact our lives are going to change in a year. 
Adam is applying to PA school this month. 
He is applying to 2 schools in Utah, 2 in Arizona, at least 5 out east, maybe 1 in Oregon, and maybe even a few more. 
I know our Father in Heaven guided us here to Logan, Utah.
I'm still learning the why we are here. 
We have met incredible people who have helped us learn and grow. 
I am guessing this must be why. 
I also know we will be guided to our next home. 

 I'm happy to have grown up in California, I'm also happy to be here right now. 
Miracles are happening in our lives everyday. 
All I can do is try to remember them all when I get frustrated. 
Heres to the future whatever it may hold. I may look back and smile at the past. But my heart lives for what is ahead. Even though it is completely unknown.